Win hearts of people-the rules

We must agree we all are human beings.We have our own ways, our own vision, our own expectations from life.Just as we as an individual have our own feelings we do or may be we should care for the feelings of others.Making this world a great place to live is not just thinking about how happy I can be, it is about how can i make the people around me happy. Once you grasp understand visualize how to please others you have already got the ability of making yourself happy.

You are a boss or may be you are clerk but you must always look to be better than what you are today.A simple peon had a habit of wishing people good day good morning good night. His nature and his way of holding conversation was always pleasing and he successfully could open out his ideas and thereby win support of most of the people in his office. He never flattered about himself and nor did he do false praising. He was one of a kind and also was a dreamer.His family was poor and had no money to send him to proper school. He never grumbled. He did all the work he was told to do without hesitation but he did it with grace. Among all other qualities his one habit was noticeable.He never involved himself in chats where the topic was about one of the office members. Great people never talk about others they talked about issues, problems and about how to solve them. He never criticized anybody. Today he has his own business and he gets support of people he had so well treated. His strength today is the hearts of the people around that he had won during his earlier life!

The ability to forgive somebody despite repeated efforts of the person to hurt you, to do things you don't like, is a big requirement. Abraham Lincoln, the then president of USA was one such who besides the other work he did had this ability to forgive and that was what made him great. During the war time his Generals screwed up everything and did things that came under the criticism of the masses and even the great thinkers of the time. But Lincoln was not upset with them. He never scolded them or tried to bog them down by putting the blame on them. A great mind was emerging a lesson for the world was being designed. His opinion was candid. The Generals did what best they could do, God has not made perfect individuals. He has not given every body the same ability and intelligence. The Generals did what they thought was right at that time.

No matter how upset you are with someone never revert back trying to get rid of your grudge feeling. If you want to be a hero always keep smiling. In fact in the German army soldiers who had grudges were not allowed to lodge complaints immediately.They were given 2 days to think about it and then if they still thought they were right they were allowed to express their anger over their seniors.

We all want appreciation. Criticizing somebody is going to lead in the person being hurt, losing self confidence and it would hurt the self prestige that is so precious for him. He did what he could. Whatever may be the reason if you control your anger,your grudge you will emerge as a winner. If you do want to criticize choose a better way. Words that you said out of anger will stay with the person and most likely the feelings he got then. Always try to boost the mood of your fellow men and you will see a leader in your self , a leader who is being followed out of will and not out of force.